A person is born only with the will to receive pleasure for self. All our “personal” desires originate from the system of impure forces.In other words, we are infinitely remote from the Creator, we cannot feel Him, and are therefore considered “spiritually dead.”

However, if, while struggling with oneself, a person acquires the desire to live, think, and act only for the sake of others and the Creator, such soul purification allows one to gradually approach the Creator until completely merging with Him. And as one comes closer to the Creator, one feels increasing delight.

Rav Michael Laitman

pg 52 Basic Concepts of Kabbalah